Sex with Premature Ejaculation

by Rabbit White on October 12, 2009

Premature Ejaculation

Premature Ejaculation - is it that big a deal?

When I first moved away to attend university in the big city, one of the first things I did, (even before unpacking all of my belongings) was to start scoping for potential mates. Living in a dorm, there were plenty of hot, virile potentials hanging around the halls. From day one, I was on a mission and I found mine on that first morning. I saw him carrying in boxes and thought, “that’s the one I want.”

A few days later, I would get what I wanted. We were hooking up in his dorm room, making out like mad and just as he was about to enter me, I felt suddenly wet all over my legs…our sex was over before it began.

Because I was new to the city and he was cute and fun to hang out with, I kept seeing him, but our sex continued in the same fashion. He wasn’t open to talking about it, so neither was I (only to my friends behind his back of course.) At the time it seemed the only option would be couples or sex therapy, or some other serious commitment and I barely knew the guy!

Looking back now, the options seem almost endless. Who says that sex has to end just because someone comes? So, he was sensitive, that could turn into a long and hot session with multiple fun for both of us, it has the potential to be way steamier than the average 7 minutes most guys last.

Also just because the penis has gone limp doesn’t mean sex is over, I wasn’t out as bi then, but I now know that there is sex without penises. He could have pleasured me in any way he saw fit, but what is most exciting to me about this situation is bringing toys into the mix. Any number of toys could be applied here for help. Though my favorite idea would be him continuing to fuck me with a hard dick…thanks to a harness and dildo.

If I were to go back and do it over, communication would obviously be key. Perhaps having him tell me when he was about to come and work together on taking it slow. There are a lot of sex-therapy methods that don’t include drugs that are about open communication and technique. In reality I have no fantasies about revisiting this relationship, but thinking about it now shows me how much I’ve grown sexually. Early ejaculation no longer seems like a total deal breaker…and really why should it be?

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